I remember being in a store with my mom and dad. I was just a little girl — couldn’t have been older than 8 or 9. My parents had just started giving my older brother and me an allowance (albeit, a very small one — $1 a week, to be exact) in an effort to give us some advice us about the value of money.

I was undoubtedly eager to experience my first taste of financial freedom, as any kid would be, but with the measly amount that I had been given for the week, there wasn’t much in the store that I could actually afford.

My parents attempted to explain to me that if I saved my allowance for a few weeks — or even pooled my dollars with my brother — I could afford something nicer. Something that I actually wanted.

But, of course, I completely ignored them and marched toward the checkout with my pack of 12 colored pencils, even though I already had plenty of those sitting unused at home. My paltry allowance was burning a hole in my pocket. Saving it seemed out of the question. I absolutely needed to spend it, regardless of what my parents had to say about it.

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Turning to My Parents for Financial Advice

This was the first of many money lessons my parents have bestowed on me throughout my life, though I like to think that I managed to pay closer attention as I became older (I hope so, at least).

To this day, my parents are still the first people I turn to for financial advice and guidance.

I’ve called them in a panic to ask about insurance deductibles. I’ve had them provide a detailed breakdown of interest rates. I don’t know if my husband and I would have ever managed to buy a house without them in our corner. They’re my favorite people to contact when I need a real explanation of some “adult” thing I only pretend to understand.

Needless to say, I thought everybody functioned this way. That everybody has the luxury of looking to their parents as their personal financial advisors — their money gurus who are always there to offer helpful, valuable insight in a pinch.

Turns out, I was wrong.

Yes, many adults turn to their parents for financial advice — 31 percent as reported by the National Foundation for Credit Counseling. But that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a good thing.

When Parents With Bad Finances Give Advice

I now consider myself a lucky exception to have my parents — who I consider to be very financially savvy people — as my unwavering resource for money advice. And I consider myself even luckier to have been raised by people with decent financial skills.

I have friends who found out that their parents were totally upside down when it came to their house payments and were in danger of being foreclosed upon.

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They discovered that their parents had more than $40,000 in credit card debt that they’d been carrying for years. They learned that dear old mom and dad hadn’t saved anything for retirement, despite the fact that they were already in their mid-50s.

My friends used to look up to them, listen to their advice on finance. But now they felt duped and irritated.

How could their parents dole out financial advice when they were in such an awful situation themselves?

So why had they been so ready and willing to blindly heed their mom and dad’s money advice without ever bothering to do any research and form opinions of their own?

Does simply being someone’s parent give you the credibility and knowledge to shape their financial views and opinions?

How to Trust Your Parents as Financial Resources

There’s undoubtedly an inherent trust between parents and their children. You firmly believe that the people who created you would never steer you wrong.

But whether it’s intentional or not, it happens. Maybe the parents themselves are uninformed. Or perhaps they simply have different standards for financial health than their children.

So, how can you evaluate that your parent is a good financial resource?

“When it comes to your finances, your resource has to have enough knowledge and information to help you, and be able to present a thorough solution in simple terms,” states Drew Parker, creator of The Complete Retirement Planner.

The financial milestones and benchmarks that your parents had when they were your age may not apply to your life.

It’s important to ensure that your parent “helps you to understand what is presented to you, why it applies to you specifically, and that the information is as accurate and thorough as possible,” Parker adds.

Luckily, most of my friends have managed to avoid difficult financial situations. But quite a few have found themselves in circumstances that could’ve been avoided had they sought a second opinion.

The Bottom Line

So what’s my point here? I encourage all young adults to look at money as you do politics or religion. Hear out your parents. Carefully consider those views and opinions that have been instilled in you for years on end.

But don’t feel the need to blindly follow directly in their footsteps. Instead, use their guidance as a baseline and a launching point to do your own research and form your own ideas of success and financial well-being.

Yes, you might stumble — you might even buy those colored pencils when you probably really shouldn’t. But forging your own financial path is still far better than the alternative.

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