What’s It Like to Marry Your Financial Opposite?
Marrying your financial opposite has its ups and downs. One pair of financial opposites explores the adventures that they've shared together.
Mr. Fixit vs. Ms. Pay-A-Pro
She said: I love that you are the third most resourceful person that I know. If I could be with anyone in a zombie apocalypse, it would be your parents. Closely followed by you.
He said: Ummmm…
She said: I mean that you are incredibly thrifty, and you can solve almost any problem with practically no money. You are the DIY champion. I can’t believe that I got lucky enough to marry someone who knows how to DIY.
He said: And I’m thankful that you don’t always insist that I DIY, even though it would be cheaper.
She said: Before I met you, I didn’t even know people could fix their own cars or houses, so I just paid money to have things fixed.
I don’t even want to think how much money I lost by not developing basic DIY skills. Thank god I married my financial opposite!
He said: I cringe every single time that we pay someone to do what I could do much less expensively, but I love that you place a high value on our time. If we had infinite time, I would always DIY because I do it better and cheaper. But, as much as I hate to admit it, sometimes it’s worthwhile to pay someone else.
Mr. Contentment vs. Ms. Hustler
She said: I’ve always liked to earn money. When I was six years old, I stuffed envelopes for my dad for one cent per envelope. I’m guessing I earned $1.50 an hour, and I spent all of that money on Skittles. Ever since then, I’ve always looked for more ways to earn a buck.
He said: Until I met you, earning money was not important to me. I only wanted a job that I liked and to earn enough money to pay my bills, invest for retirement, and have a little fun.
She said: When I figured out how little you were earning, it drove me crazy. I felt that with your skills and your degree, you should have been earning twice what you were. For me, figuring out ways to earn more money was just a part of life. I couldn’t understand that anyone could have a different perspective.
He said: And I love that about you. You see money-making opportunities everywhere. I’m not like that.
IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO REALIZE THAT TRYING TO EARN MORE MONEY ISN’T SELFISH – IT’S JUST A CHOICE YOU CAN MAKE.
She said: I love that for you earning money is tied to the concept of “enough.” You don’t need to feed a bottomless money-earning pit. I admire that you aren’t always looking to make the next buck.
Mr. Thrifty vs. Ms. Spendy
He said: I love that you have good taste.
She said: I love that I have good taste, too.
He said: You’re supposed to say something nice about me.
She said: Okay, I like that all your favorite luxuries are free. You always take time to smell the roses, to point out a cool bug, or to watch the sunset.
IT DOESN’T TAKE MUCH MONEY FOR YOU TO BE HAPPY, AND I LOVE THAT.
He said: And I love that you know how to spend money well. Without you, I wouldn’t splurge on snowboarding trips or hotels with hot tubs and mountain views. I rarely regret the money we spend on things that you suggest. I don’t like when you suggest spending money, but when I see that it fits in our budget, I feel more excited to spend money with you.
She said: I think that I’m always going to be the person in our relationship who suggests that we spend money. Whether it’s going out for ice cream, taking a vacation, or remodeling the bathroom.
He said: I’m always going to be a tightwad, but I’m thankful that you show me that it is healthy to enjoy spending some of our money. In fact, I think we should luxuriously spend $5 on two frozen pizzas right now. I have a coupon.
She said: I think we should avoid destroying our stomach liners, no matter how low the cost.