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Posted by Lindsay VanSomeren (MONEY FORUMS: 3, Answers: 4)
Asked on December 14, 2015 7:43 pm
This really depends on your level of friendship. Tough love is obviously needed, but she may be too swamped with the emotional aspect of her divorce to see the other side now.
If you're not able to be honest with her or to gain some interest, offer to help. Bring her to a financial advisor, send along some good post-divorce finance blogs from a trusted writer, or help her start thinking about retirement or living expenses by having an open-ended, nonjudgmental conversation over coffee. But first and foremost, remember that this is her struggle, and try to be sensitive and not pushy.
Sounds like a monumental task! Hopefully she has a good lawyer who will help. Without knowing any details of her situation, it is hard to guide you. Perhaps asking her questions about new living arrangements, followed by questions of what those things will cost can get the ball rolling on figuring out her total cost of living. The other concern is that she has access to cash, like funds/accounts in her name alone.