My husband and I share our finances, but we don’t share a money mindset. Sometimes, in fact, we drive each other crazy. We are financial opposites.

Mr. Fixit vs. Ms. Pay-A-Pro

She said: I love that you are the third most resourceful person that I know. If I could be with anyone in a zombie apocalypse, it would be your parents. Closely followed by you.

He said: Ummmm…

She said: I mean that you are incredibly thrifty, and you can solve almost any problem with practically no money. You are the DIY champion. I can’t believe that I got lucky enough to marry someone who knows how to DIY.

He said: And I’m thankful that you don’t always insist that I DIY, even though it would be cheaper.

She said: Before I met you, I didn’t even know people could fix their own cars or houses, so I just paid money to have things fixed.

I don’t even want to think how much money I lost by not developing basic DIY skills. Thank God I married my financial opposite!

He said: I cringe every single time we pay someone to do what I could do much less expensively, but I love that you place a high value on our time. If we had infinite time, I would always DIY because I do it better and cheaper. But, as much as I hate to admit it, sometimes it’s worthwhile to pay someone else.

Mr. Contentment vs. Ms. Hustler

She said: I’ve always liked to earn money. When I was 6 years old, I stuffed envelopes for my dad for one cent per envelope. I’m guessing I earned $1.50 an hour, and I spent all of that money on Skittles. Ever since then, I’ve always looked for more ways to earn a buck.

He said: Until I met you, earning money was not important to me. I only wanted a job that I liked and to earn enough money to pay my bills, invest for retirement, and have a little fun.

She said: When I figured out how little you were earning, it drove me crazy. I felt that with your skills and your degree, you should have been earning twice what you were. For me, figuring out ways to earn more money was just a part of life. I couldn’t understand that anyone could have a different perspective.

He said: And I love that about you. You see moneymaking opportunities everywhere. I’m not like that.

It took me a long time to realize that trying to earn more money isn’t selfish — it’s just a choice.

She said: I love that for you, earning money is tied to the concept of “enough.” You don’t need to feed a bottomless money-earning pit. I admire that you aren’t always looking to make the next buck.

Mr. Thrifty vs. Ms. Spendy

He said: I love that you have good taste.

She said: I love that I have good taste, too.

He said: You’re supposed to say something nice about me.

She said: Okay, I like that all your favorite luxuries are free. You always take time to smell the roses, to point out a cool bug, or to watch the sunset.

It doesn’t take much money for you to be happy, and I love that.

He said: And I love that you know how to spend money well. Without you, I wouldn’t splurge on snowboarding trips or hotels with hot tubs and mountain views. I rarely regret the money we spend on things that you suggest. I don’t like when you suggest spending money, but when I see that it fits in our budget, I feel more excited to spend money with you.

She said: I think that I’m always going to be the person in our relationship who suggests that we spend money. Whether it’s going out for ice cream, taking a vacation, or remodeling the bathroom.

He said: I’m always going to be a tightwad, but I’m thankful that you show me that it is healthy to enjoy spending some of our money. In fact, I think we should luxuriously spend $5 on two frozen pizzas right now. I have a coupon.

She said: I think we should avoid destroying our stomach linings, no matter how low the cost.