How to Make Ends Meet: The Glaspeys’ Story
A millennial couple learns how to make ends meet as they balance returning to school, working, and raising a family.
A few years ago, Brianna and Byron Glaspey moved to Raleigh, North Carolina so that Byron could start seminary. Brianna was pregnant with their elder daughter, and they had enough money for a few months’ rent. But they had no jobs lined up.
In fact, other than Byron’s scholarship to study at the seminary, the Glaspeys had no personal or professional connection to Raleigh. They moved anyway, since the scholarship offered a great opportunity. They would figure out how to make ends meet once they arrived.
The specifics of providing for themselves and their daughter didn’t cross their minds until they began living in Raleigh. They soon realized they needed an income plan in order to make ends meet.
Brianna, a registered nurse, took the first job she could find, administering immunizations. Next, she found a part-time job with the Red Cross. She received health coverage through Medicaid until she qualified for health insurance through the Red Cross.
Byron attended school by day and worked part time in the UPS warehouse in the evenings. The two part-time jobs kept the family afloat during Byron’s first two years of school.
The Glaspeys have faithfully stitched together an income quilt that has kept their earnings just above their expenses.
However, growing expenses are inevitable with a growing family. After the couple’s second daughter was born, Brianna decided to take on a full-time position in a local ER. Byron continued to work at UPS until he found alternative part-time work as a pastor and as a teacher at his seminary.
Help From the ’Rents
Thanks largely to their parents, Byron and Brianna graduated with bachelor’s degrees and without debt. They still drive cars that were paid for by parents more than a decade ago.
“It’s normal for couples to start their life together with $50,000 in debt, but we started our life with a little bit of money in the bank,” Brianna says. “Our family support network is what made this life possible.”
Byron agrees. “My parents came up for a week, and they watched the girls for a few hours every day,” he says. “It was a huge break for us. If we could do it all over, we might have chosen to stay near our parents just for the free babysitting!”
How to Make Ends Meet: Living Within Your Means
Though given a jump start, they’re not about to race into a high-spending lifestyle. They believe in the old dictum: Live within your means. They track their income and spending using the Mint.com app, which lets them know when they can afford a little extra or when to cut back.
Plus, they play a neat game of tag —parenting, work, and school duties — so that they don’t have to pay for full-time childcare.
By making hard choices and living within their means, they have avoided consumer and student debt. This is also possible because Byron has maintained grants and scholarships that cover tuition in full.
Finding Time for Family
You may think that juggling so many things — school, daughters, side hustles, ER duty — may make them an all-work-and-no-play couple with little time left over for each other. But you’d be wrong.
They regularly discuss their schedules and are sensitive to each other’s needs. Byron knows when Brianna could use a nap, and vice versa. They recognize that six or seven years is too long to just hang on, so they work to strengthen their marriage and connect with their kids even more.
They wake up to each morning these days and send a grateful prayer heavenward for three little smiling faces and a debt-free life.